Online Dating – Potential Dangers and Disasters

You’ve just clicked the last box in the long list of procedures to join XYZ online dating service, confident that everything you put in your profile was exactly as you wanted. You double checked, didn’t you?

Oops, you accidentally left in some key information that will make you readily identifiable to all your friends, family and co-workers. Now everybody will know about your absolute sheer desperation to find a partner.

Or worse! You put on your profile a photograph of yourself, half-plastered with alcohol at the last Christmas party, lipstick smeared across your cheeks (I haven’t mentioned any gender here, so whatever pictures you have in your mind are entirely your input).

So, you see. This is a potential minefield…and we haven’t even been out on our first date yet, have we?

But don’t despair or feel that the cat is out of the bag. You can always go back to the profile and change the details/remove the photos/delete your entire account if you are scared enough.

But let’s be serious here for a moment. In the following paragraphs I’m going to go through the three most apparent “dangers” of Internet dating.

The Stalker

Yes, ladies and gentlemen. I will put this horrible creature at the top of the list. We have all heard the horrifying stories that have often ended in tragedy. Even murder. Quite often these terrible events have come after encounters on the more “adult-oriented” sites. Perhaps a threesome has become a deadly game filled with jealousy and hatred, after what seemed to be such a cool idea at the time.

Even on a more mundane level, there are nutters out there who have harassed poor women (and men) to the point of psychological breakdown. Yep, it happens.

But, there are ways to avoid this. These guidelines, by no means a definitive list, are especially relevant for women and may help you in a tricky situation.

  1. Never put direct contact details in a profile. Most dating sites will not allow this anyway, as long as their screening procedures are up to standard.
  2. Make sure your first meetings are in well-patronized areas, like a food-court in a shopping mall, or some other busy place. That way, if the man/woman turns out to be less than what you hoped for, you can blend into the crowd before slipping away.
  3. If you feel nervous, take along someone you know and trust well and have them observe you from a distance. You won’t believe how much more confident this makes some women feel.
  4. Don’t give your phone number to your new online friend until you feel it is safe to do so. When is this? Certainly not after date number one.
  5. This may sound drastic, but keep some form of protection (in addition to condoms!) in your handbag (mace, capsicum spray, a very loud alarm device) in case you find yourself alone and in an intimidating environment. In the same vein, go and get some self-defense lessons – it will keep you fit and desirable as well as give you valuable knowledge about groin attacks and the like!

The Don Juan Crook

These are men, nine times out of ten, and there are more and more stories of these guys emerging every day.

This is where a super-charmer convinces their new date/partner that they are world-famous, super successful and know all the celebrities. For some reason or other, all their funds are tied up in something, and they cannot get their hands on ready cash for day-to-day living, or for some other “sure-fire” investment.

Before you know it. Mr or Mrs Gullible Internet Dater have handed over their bank account details, credit cards, or even packed the rolls of cash into the suitcase before driving Don Juan to the airport and kissing him good-bye as he boards the plane for Rio!

How do you avoid these crooks? It can be difficult for lonely folks, especially widows and widowers (beware the female black spider!), so the best advice here is to enlist a friend or two to give you an absolutely candid appraisal of your new-found Prince/Princess Charming.

The Dishonest Dating Site with Fake Members

This problem had a bit of press in Australia recently. I won’t name the actual site, but the owners were punished by the courts and made to apologize to their members.

Sadly, it can be hard to spot the fake profiles, sometimes answering you via sophisticated software programs, or even by real people paid to pretend they are someone else (backpackers in Australia, for instance).

If you aren’t careful, these pseudo-daters can waste a lot of your valuable time and money.

The best way to avoid being scammed in this way is to ask specific questions that only a real person would know the answers to. For example, ask about current events in your local area. If they can’t or won’t answer, you might be dealing with a robot!

However, in my opinion, Internet dating is a great option in today’s fast-paced world. People are time poor, and lack the freedom to socialize they way it used to be in the “good old days’.

Online daters just need to be alert to the potential dangers, and take the appropriate steps to minimize the damage.

Happy dating!

3 Sure Shot Tips to Succeed in an Online Dating Business

With more and more people looking to exploit this goldmine of online dating and starting their online dating business the competition has seen a huge rise. Now, if you are also looking to step into this field and make a fortune for yourself, then here are some sure shot tips that are going to help you succeed:

1. The target niche – Focusing on a particular target audience is the key to success, no matter what business you are in. Same goes here in dating business. You need to choose a niche that you think you understand. For instance, you can target elderly people looking for a partner, or even better start a dating site only for teenagers. By selecting a niche, you can streamline your services, and focus on one goal. As we all understand, the requirements are different for different people and age groups, especially when it comes to dating, so targeting on a particular age-group is the best idea.

2. The start-up and script – The first step in setting up an dating business online is to conceptualize what exactly are your requirements. Research on the web, and look for online dating site scripts. You can easily find a number of free online dating scripts that you can refer to. Looking at these will give you an idea about what features are commonly running in the market when it comes to online dating sites. Based on the present trends, you can make a blueprint about the features that you want to add in your site. Research gives you an opportunity to study the current market scenario, as well as identify your competition, a must for every business these days

3. The website – Once you are done with finalizing the script, the next and the most important step is to get a website created based on the script you have decided. And, if you already have a website running, then you can simply find free scripts online and install it on the present website. Isn’t that great! Once the script is installed, you can easily make money by getting paid for every hit that the visitors make on your site. You can even create a members area, and charge the members for advanced services like getting contact info of the members and so on.

These simple steps, if followed, can help you gain success in online dating business without any doubt.

Online Dating – Does It Work?

What is Love?

What do we consider love? One popular dictionary site states that love is: “The most spectacular,indescribable, deep euphoric feeling for someone.” So love is spectacular and indescribable. Love sets our hearts on fire, it makes our blood boil and turns us into different creatures. Love, sex and romance have fueled our culture and history, they have built up and torn down empires, and they are what every person wants to find.

Where is the Love?

How do you find it? In the past you looked to your friends, you scanned the church and searched the clubs, maybe it even would even sneak up on you at work. In the deeper past you married who your parents decided and hoped love would spark. Today, as before, we use the tools at our disposal. They just happen to be different tools. Today we use the internet.

Not more than a few years ago, no self respecting person would admit that they were dating online. It was seen as a last resort, a tool for the desperate. What a difference a few years makes! Scientists at the University of Rochester recently reported a study where they found that online dating is now the second most common way to begin a relationship. Today tens of millions of people use online dating sites and these sites have proliferated.,,, and these are just a very few of the most popular not even counting the niche dating sites. What was frowned upon has become commonplace and why wouldn’t it. A CNN article recently summed it up like this:

If you’re young, urban and didn’t import a significant other from college, it’s pretty likely that you’re on an online dating site.

The pool of possibilities widens immensely. No longer do you need to settle for people you would meet at work, a party, church, or a local bar. Many of these dating sites even promise, through proprietary computer matching, that they can indeed pick out your perfect mate.

Where do We Find Love

Can they truly pick a perfect match? That is still a rather controversial assertion, but what they will do is introduce you to many more people than you would have met otherwise. And it all depends on what you are looking for and it depends how hard you want to look. Everyone knows someone who met their spouse online, as well as met people who have horror stories about online dating. Are the statistic for online dating any better than traditional dating? A study recently out published in the journal Psychological Science in the Public Interest states that it is no more effective than traditional dating for finding a happy relationship. The study states:

Regarding matching, no compelling evidence supports matching sites’ claims that mathematical algorithms work-that they foster romantic outcomes that are superior to those fostered by other means of pairing partners.

This may be true, but we use the tools at our disposal. So cupid is still rather stingy with his arrows high tech or otherwise. If it were that easy, it wouldn’t be love!